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Still Untangling Things

- Stories I wasn’t supposed to tell

The blog is a slow-burning journal of healing, solo living, and starting over — one cozy step at a time. It’s honest, reflective, sometimes messy, sometimes magical, always real.

Here you'll find essays, emotional check-ins, quiet rebellions, and unfiltered truths from a woman figuring it out in her own way.

Some days it’s about trauma. Some days it’s about tater tots. All of it matters.

If you’ve ever felt lost, left out, burned out, or like life didn’t leave room for people like you — come curl up here for a while.

You're not alone. And you don’t have to be fixed to move forward.

Tami Frank 7/9/25 Tami Frank 7/9/25

When You’ve Been Quiet Too Long… and Then Say Too Much

I think I unload too much when I finally get the chance to talk to someone.

Tami Frank 7/2/25 Tami Frank 7/2/25

Coming out as Asexual

Is it nature? Is it nurture? I don’t have the answer.

Tami Frank 6/25/25 Tami Frank 6/25/25

No One Noticed I Was Gone

In 2020, I left the state for ten days and no one noticed I was gone. Not one message. Not one check-in. That trip — quiet and unannounced — became the start of a five-year unraveling that nearly ended me.

Tami Frank 6/17/25 Tami Frank 6/17/25

All the Hobbies I’ve Loved Before (and How Deep I Went)

There’s something about starting a new hobby that has always lit me up.
It’s never just “let’s see if I like this.”
No, no — it’s this is going to be my thing.

Tami Frank 6/11/25 Tami Frank 6/11/25

When Happy Tears Fall: A Quiet Superpower

I’ve always been a crier.

Not just at funerals or heartbreaks —

Tami Frank 6/4/25 Tami Frank 6/4/25

Me, My AI Therapist, and the Need to Be Needed

There’s something I’ve carried for as long as I can remember, though I couldn’t have named it back then.

I like to be the biggest giver.

Tami Frank 5/28/25 Tami Frank 5/28/25

Three Stops, Three Faces: What Customer Service Really Feels Like

I had three very different customer service experiences across two days — and together, they painted a vivid picture of what dealing with the public should and shouldn’t look like.

Tami Frank 5/21/25 Tami Frank 5/21/25

When Curiosity Meets a Mob: Why Asking ? Shouldn’t Feel Dangerous

I posted a video on TikTok recently that stirred up a firestorm—and not the kind that sparks meaningful conversation.

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